The Supermom Spiral: Modern Mothers Anxiety

Over the years I’ve been involved in a number of studies exploring the behavior and motivations of mothers. An emotional and physical ‘hub’ for family activity, mothers are often expected to deliver perfectly on a mind-boggling array of demands.

To quote a mother we recently researched:

"You're pulled in many directions. Your kids want things from you, they need things from you, your house needs attention, you need to do shopping errands, [give] attention to your husband, all your chores, activites and work. There are things you want to do for yourself, but you feel pulled in many directions." - Female (2009) 

To make things worse, not only are mothers experiencing 21st Century scope creep, they’re also attempting to live up to unrealistic expectations of perfection.

Here's a quote from another mother we researched:

"My life is absolutely a fiasco. You don't know what to do first; work, play with your children, provide everything perfectly like a super-mum. And these days people are judging [you] so much." - Female (2009) 

It seems that modern mothers often feel trapped between Supermom expectations, responsibilities and compromises; all of which feed off each other. Unrealistic expectations increase responsibilities. Too many responsibilities lead to compromise. Compromise affects the ability to meet expectations.

Below is a diagram illustrating what I've termed the Supermom Spiral:
Helping to break or alleviate this Supermom Spiral is a big opportunity for organizations willing to embrace reality - so on that note I thought I’d share two tips for marketing to modern mothers:

1. There’s no such thing as perfect. Mothers place enough unrealistic expectations on themselves; they don’t need any additional help from brands and marketers. Give them a break from perfection and try embracing reality.

2. More information, data and facts aren't necessarily a good thing – often they just increase the burden of responsibility on mothers. Wherever possible cut through the ‘data smog’ and explore more emotional motivations.

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

I read a book that also talked about this idea... http://books.google.ca/books?id=LgcMoR9KM1YC

Niketa said...

Well it will be quite interesting to observe if brands stop harping on being a supermom,especially more interesting while carrying forward the idea of a realistic mom in its execution.... as its not just the external pressures but the desired self-perception of every mother motivates her to buy the idea or aptly the myth of a supermum. Women are quite OK not being a perfect woman and it worked beautifully for Dove in its real women campaign but are women OK with not being a perfect mother ?

Nick Black said...
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Nick Black said...

Hmm. Neat question Niketa.

My opinion…There’s no such thing as perfect when it comes to family. Flaws, conflict, tension and change are an inherent part of a family. They give it character and personality.

Ultimately, trying to be perfect can often get in the way of being great.